It is said that Feng Tang has a passage that is very insightful:
"The genes of poor people like to take care of others and like to help others;"
Rich people encounter incapable individuals, do not engage, avoiding energy depletion.
Poor people, cautiously generous;
Rich people are generously stingy.
At first read, it seems real, but upon deeper thought, it is all the truth.
Behind this, it is not the gap between rich and poor, but the wisdom of energy management.
[Breeze] Poor people's mindset: affectionate, but easily depleted.
Because they have experienced scarcity, they can empathize more with others' difficulties. That 'cautiously generous' nature is rooted in kindness and consideration, but it is often accompanied by self-consumption. Fear of displeasing others, fear of cracks in relationships, thus they continue to give, even at their own expense. Energy thus flows little by little into a bottomless pit.
[Breeze] Wealthy thinking: focus on efficiency, hence conservation.
Their 'generous stinginess' is not frugality, but awareness. Time, energy, and emotions are top resources, and must be invested in places that generate value. Quickly identify and decisively avoid energy-draining people and situations. This is not indifference, but precise control over your energy account.
[Breeze] Two ways of thinking lead to two life states:
A continuous internal struggle in the whirlpool of 'human feelings', exhausted and aggrieved.
A continuous appreciation in the realm of 'value', steady and composed.
We may not be able to immediately possess the wealth of the rich, but we can learn the rich's 'frugality' towards energy early on.
True maturity begins with establishing your own energy boundaries:
Use that 'caution' to nurture your inner feelings.
Use that 'generosity' on people and matters that truly matter to you.
Learning to say 'no' to unnecessary consumption is the most important self-love after becoming an adult.
Give your kindness clear boundaries.
Allocate your energy to worthy battles.
When you stop blindly 'helping others' and start wisely 'investing' in yourself,
Your life is just beginning to truly appreciate in value.$SOL
